“So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed.
What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.”
― John Green
“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. love hurts. feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is means to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how your carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. You’re feelings are a part of you. your own reality. iF you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. you should stand up for your right to feel your pain.” – The Lizard King/Jim Morrison